Ok so my 2 cents on Erin,,
It is a brave thing she has done given the intolerance for those that don't fit the mold.
I see no reason for the mold.
You are what you are and trying to change yourself to fit someone else's ideas is a sure fire way to end up hurt or heartbroken.
(Erin if I fuck up and call you Dude, Sorry. I call my Wife and Daughter dude sometimes and they don't hate me. Yet.)